Life is a journey filled with challenges, triumphs, and valuable lessons. Throughout my own experiences, I've encountered major breakthroughs that have shaped the person I am today. In this blog post, I want to share some of the most significant lessons I've learned, each contributing to personal growth and self-discovery.
Recognizing the Problem:
One of the fundamental truths I've come to understand is that solving a problem starts with acknowledging its existence. Denial and avoidance only prolong the pain. Honesty with oneself, seeking help, and open communication are crucial steps toward resolving issues and preventing a lifetime of uncertainty.
Recognizing the problem can be a very difficult thing to do. We may not even realize the problem and when we finally recognize it, what we usually come to learn is that we were in denial. We weren’t listening to the people in our lives, we were wrapped up in things that weren’t important, or we were worrying about things we can’t control.
For me this was a major breakthrough because when I looked at the symptoms of the problem, I communicated with others and asked for help, I let my guard down and got vulnerable, and took ownership of my role. It became very clear. But this took a strong desire to understand and address the issue.
I recognized recently that I was all out of whack and after further analysis realized it was my ADHD. I wasn’t getting the nutrients I needed, wasn’t sleeping properly, and didn’t have a structured schedule. Once I addressed these, I was able to solve the issue.
Efficient Work Over Hard Work:
Hard work is commendable, but working smartly and efficiently matters just as much. Simply putting in hours doesn't guarantee success. Learning to work effectively, prioritizing tasks, and focusing on meaningful goals can lead to more productive and fulfilling outcomes.
This was a major breakthrough for me when I realized the fact that I was glorifying being a "hard worker." But clearly there is a major difference between being a hard worker and a smart worker. We spin around in circles working hard on things that don't add to our lives or the bottom line. This all starts with setting priorities.
The Mind-Body-Soul Connection:
Lesson three is a personal revelation about the intimate link between diet and mental well-being. As someone with ADHD, I've discovered the significance of a structured diet, supplements, and a schedule tailored to my unique needs. Prioritizing my mental health and self-care has been transformative.
Your soul needs your mind and your mind needs your body. If we are feeding our body negative stuff like bad food etc. our brains can’t function properly and in turn this throws our soul off.
True breakthroughs demand effort. Being vulnerable and willing to challenge your limits is essential for personal growth. Breaking through barriers requires dedication, persistence, and a willingness to explore uncharted territories.
It's called a breakthrough because you have to break through. That means you have to work at it. If you imagine taking a sledgehammer to a wall, you would chip away at it little by little until finally the breakthrough. Then the rest of the wall just crumbles.
Ownership and Responsibility:
Blaming others or creating false narratives can hinder personal progress. Learning to listen and accept constructive feedback from friends, family, and loved ones has helped me assume responsibility for my actions and choices.
In the past when something would happen in my life I took it as it happening to me. The old me would like to blame, create false narratives, and be the victim. These are all impulses that lead us to create a situation based on false beliefs. False Belifes=False reality. And guess what? If you allow yourself to go down that path you will never fix the problem. It all goes back to taking resposibility and being honest with yourself about your role in this whole thing.
Consistency with Conditions:
Managing conditions like ADHD requires consistent effort. Sticking to a program and maintaining self-awareness can prevent impulsive behaviors that may harm relationships and personal well-being.
It is so easy to forget our condition and just go down the rabbit hole. We have to constantly remind ourselves and be mindful of our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
I thought I was being mindful. I would tell myself, "oh I'm mindful yea for sure." But guess what? This is a hour by hour activity that we have to do. We have to check in with ourselves in a very regular basis to be sure we are giving our minds, bodies, and souls what we need to be happy and fulfilled and focused on the right things.
Cultivating Inner Happiness:
Lesson seven underscores the importance of controlling your happiness. Relying on external factors for contentment is fleeting. Acknowledging personal agency over one's emotional state empowers you to find peace regardless of external circumstances.
We are not in control of other peoples emotions and adversely others are not in control of our emotions. We have to make ourselves happy and that can happen in any situation. Yes we can influence one another's happiness and stressful stuff comes up that pisses us off but if we practice loving ourselves we realize that, "our happiness is our responsibility.
The Ripple Effect of Helping:
The act of helping others often comes full circle. The people we assist can, in turn, provide support and wisdom when we least expect it. This interconnectedness adds depth and meaning to our lives.
I was going through a rough time recently and that's where all these breakthroughs happened. In my pursuit of figuring out my role and how I can fix the problem I was counseled by an unexpected person. Someone I had coached. She helped me realize what was going on with me and it's just amazing to me that, "sometimes we are the teacher, other times we are the student."
Paying Attention to Divine Guidance:
Recognizing the signs and opportunities that come our way is pivotal. Whether you call it intuition or divine intervention, being attuned to life's messages can guide you toward your purpose and passions.
God, the universe, your intuition, what ever you want to call it will lead you in the right direction if you are paying attention. Here's the thing most of can find ourselves with a fog around our mind that we can't see out of, you can't see the path with a cloud around your mind.
In order to be in tune with this guidance we have to be present and fully aware. We have to force ouselves to gain perspective. We have to regurally meditate, write, pray, and read to help ourselves have that different perspective. Because when the smoke clears, wow there a big world out there and it's a beautiful life.
I talked with a friend about this and had this idea. If we are always looking in one direction, like always looking forward for example, there could be all kinds of stuff happening behind us that we are not aware of. If we keep our heads down at our phones we could be missing out on tons of guidance that's right in our face. We just can't see it.
The Power of Choice:
Feeling overwhelmed by external pressures, like social media, is a choice. We have the ability to determine what adds value to our lives and what doesn't. Prioritizing our energy and time is key to maintaining balance.
This was a major one for me. It came from my Dad, my personal guru. He said, "You don't have to do all the stuff you want to do." With everybody posting all this content that instructs all of us to post a lot of content we develop this idea that "we have to."
You don't have to post 6 times a day. You don't have to ruin your relationships because you're editing 8 hours a day. You don't have to be in a shitty relationship. You don't have to be a billionaire. You don't have to keep working as some job you hate.
What you have to do is, "have a clear heart and a clear mind." You have to nurture your mind, body, and soul. You have to be present.
I'm not saying you don't have to work to get where you want to go but you need to do it on your terms in a healthy way. And living in total misery, I'm deffinately not down with that. You don't have to. Do things that add value to your life.
Prioritizing What Matters:
The final lesson revolves around time management and priorities. Focusing on what truly matters ensures that our efforts are directed toward our most meaningful goals and aspirations.
You have to prioritize you tasks and make sure you're not just doing busy work. Prioritize your time so your not waisting time and taking to long to get things done or working overtime cuz your inefficient.
We need structure, get that todo list going today.
Life's journey is marked by experiences that challenge, inspire, and mold us. These lessons are just a glimpse into the wisdom I've gained along the way. Embracing self-awareness, being open to growth, and committing to positive change can help anyone navigate their own path toward personal development and fulfillment.
No matter where you are I hope you're loving your life and going after your full potential.
Until next time...✌️❤️😎