Ever got a nasty comment on a post? When you are putting out content all the time you become more and more likely by the day to encounter a common phenomenon: the negative commenter aka "The Hater."
You know the type—the individuals who seem to find joy in posting unfavorable remarks or criticisms. Recently, after putting out a post some chick put a hater comment. The post was this one:https://www.zachtouchon.com/post/are-you-willing-to-be-laughed-at-are-you-willing-to-suck-are-you-willing-to-fail It's basically a post about being willing to suck, be laughed at, fail, or in this case hated on.
"Are you willing to learn how to post something that's actually readable?
That's what it's going to take for me to understand what you tried to convey... Sucks doesn't it?" -Some Hater On Facebook
Now when I first saw the comment I was like WTF? I at first want to be a smart ass. Then I wanted to say something mean. Then I wanted to understand why. I thought it was best to respond with this:
"Thank you for your feedback; I appreciate your honesty. It's true; I'm continually learning and growing in my writing and communication. While it may not always be perfect, my intention is to share insights and positivity. Constructive suggestions are always welcome. Let's continue to support each other's journey of growth and self-improvement. I'm here to learn and evolve, and I'm grateful for your engagement. Sending big hugs your way and remember, “the ripple effects of our positive actions are massive.”
This was a way to be positive and humble but still respond. Maybe a little smart ass admittedly. Maybe I shouldn't have said anything. My wife said, "congratulations!" Usually some haters hating on you is a good sign that, "it's working." I don't know who said it exactly but it went something like, "if nobody is hating on you then you ain't doin shit."
Maybe it's true, maybe not. But it got me thinking what makes someone be hateful? Particurally someone who is an older woman smiling on their profile and seems to be very likeable. So I did a little research and here's what I found, enjoy.
Also quick side note, this is just barely hateful. People can get really nasty on social media and it's really messed up. So if you're being bullied online and you're having a hard time with it my heart goes out to you. Some peoples lives have been ruined by haters.
So, why do haters post negative comments?
Let's dive into the psychology behind it:
Seeking Attention: One of the primary drivers behind negative comments is the desire for attention. For some, posting something controversial or critical is a way to stand out in a sea of comments and attract eyeballs.
Insecurity and Jealousy: Negative comments often stem from the commenter's own insecurities and jealousy. When someone sees another person succeeding or sharing their thoughts with confidence, it can trigger feelings of inadequacy or envy, leading to negative remarks.
Displaced Anger: Haters may use the comment section as an outlet for their own frustrations and anger. Instead of addressing the root cause of their emotions, they displace it onto others, finding solace in making critical comments.
Online Anonymity: The anonymity of the internet empowers some individuals to express their innermost negativity without facing real-world consequences. Online personas can embolden people to say things they might never say in person.
Attention-Seeking Behavior: Posting a negative comment can be a quick way to get noticed. In an age where engagement and clicks matter, haters may resort to negativity to garner responses and reactions.
Psychological Projection: Psychologically, projecting one's insecurities, fears, or shortcomings onto others is common. Haters may target individuals who represent what they secretly wish they could be or achieve.
Boredom and Trolling: Some people post negative comments simply because they're bored or enjoy trolling others. The internet offers a platform to amuse themselves at the expense of others.
Understanding these motivations can help us respond to negative comments with empathy. It's essential to remember that behind each negative remark, there's a complex human being with their own insecurities and challenges. Responding with kindness, empathy, or even ignoring the comment can be a powerful way to break the cycle of negativity.
In a world where spreading positivity and support is more critical than ever, let's choose to rise above the haters and continue sharing our thoughts, experiences, and dreams with confidence. After all, it's those positive voices that drive progress and inspire others to follow their passions.